Bad things happening are inevitable, but we don’t need to let them ruin the whole day.
We may not be able to control what goes on around us, but we can control how we react.
Seemingly little things can trigger a bad day, whether it’s getting stuck in traffic, having an argument with your partner or you just feel ‘off.’
Negativity is a very strong thought process and it can flood your brain pushing aside the positive parts which become easily forgotten about.
“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
Did you know that we are 31% more productive when we have a positive mindset and our creativity rates are tripled? Having a positive way of thinking can also lower stress levels and give you better coping skills so it really can be a powerful tool!
Below are some tips on how you can turn a bad day around:
MANAGE THE SITUATION
First things first is to pinpoint the problem – what is it that actually made you feel negative. Calmly and logically look at the problem opposed to thinking about the possible outcomes stemming from the problem. Our brains tend to fast forward to the outcomes of situations instead of staying in the present.
Scale your situation from 1-10, 10 being life changing. This can help you rationalise the severity of the issue. In the moment our car breaking down may seem like the worst thing that could happen to you but in reality it isn’t a big problem. It can be fixed.
Think about what you need to do to rectify the problem if that is even possible. Create a plan on how to fix the issue so you are actively trying to solve the problem.
Say if your car has broken down, this can have a domino effect throughout your day as you no longer have transport. Think about what other arrangements need to be altered because of this.
CHANGE YOUR OUTLOOK
Always look for the silver lining. Positive thinking has so much power over how you feel, and you don’t want to get stuck in a depressed or angry state about something that cannot be controlled.
Walk away from the situation and clear your mind. Go for a coffee, go for a walk or see a friend. In the heat of the moment we have so many intense feelings feeding off of our energy it can take over. Stepping away may give you more clarity.
Is there something you can learn from what has happened? Mistakes are chances to learn, so turn this round to be an event to learn from for the future.
FIX YOUR MOOD
You are the best person to know what will bring you out of a negative headspace. What makes you happy?
Is it seeing friends? Speaking to your mum? Going for a bike ride or a swim? There are so many ways we can make ourselves feel better. If you’re stuck for ideas why not listen to a funny podcast (My Dad Wrote a Porno is hilarious) or search for funny cat videos on Youtube. Have an upbeat playlist on your phone just in-case.
Have you ever looked back on a situation and laughed whilst at the time you were having a meltdown? I think we all have. The intense emotion we feel at the time is very real, however sometimes we need to take a step back and think about how much of a problem it really is in the bigger picture.
I hope these tips can help turn your bad days around. If you have any other ideas please leave them in the comments below!